When someone serves God as a married person they have divided loyalties and interests. Balance and creativity are needed to deal with this tension. God must come first, before our work for Him or our relationship with our marriage partner.
Having established that priority we need to remain flexible, committed to both service for God and faithfulness to our spouse. Most of the time neither needs to have priority over the other. At times, however, one commitment needs to be laid aside momentarily in order to respond to the other. At other times the need will be reversed. Maturity enables one to respond wisely when such choices involve tension and misunderstanding. When children are included the potential problem is compounded and tensions are intensified.
Understanding of the issues involved in a given decision should be sought for all concerned: children, spouse and those to be served by you. Neglect of any area of commitment should be dealt with speedily. Self-interest should be sacrificed. And an effort should be made to help others understand when they will need to sacrifice as well.
The enrichment of all should be the bottom line. The urgent must always be tempered by the important. The important should not make you unresponsive to the urgent.
Jesus pointed this out in Luke 10:25-37 when He told the parable of the Good Samaritan. The good Samaritan was possibly on his way home from a business trip, and would be late because of taking time to meet this beaten stranger’s need. Hopefully his wife and children understood.